Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Why I don't drop links (A blog for Ferns)

I’m shy about dropping links because I’m worried people will think I just want them to buy my books. I enjoy participating in discussions on blogs, but I totally do want people to buy my books. More than that I want people to read them and enjoy them. I want people to love them. I want those people to bury me in emails and ask questions and tell me their thoughts and opinions, their feelings. I want them to show up at my house like they know me. I want to invite them in and let them play cards while I cook for them and feed them, and I’ll eavesdrop and hope discussions about my books erupt like flash flood rains. I want to hear which parts made them laugh, which parts made them cry, and which parts made them cum. I want to be in the blood streams of my readers and explore while they read to see where they tingle. I want them to tell me when Kimberly gave them a cute look or said something funny and I want to return to the exact moment I discovered her giving it or saying it to me, and I want to sound completely removed from my writing of her, and simply marvel at her, with them. And I want them to tell me they love her, and I want them to listen while I tell them I love her, too.
But that would be pretty needy, so I usually don’t drop links.

8 comments:

  1. *smile* A blog post?! Just for me?! Awesome!

    Okay, here's the thing: A link to your blog in your signature is not advertising, is not needy, is not obtrusive in any way. There is a big difference between participating in discussions and including a link and finding *excuses* to say something in a discussion for the *purpose* of linking to your blog/book/whatever (that's just spam).

    Most people (me included) *like* looking at the blogs of people who they are talking to. It helps to flesh them out, to get a better idea of who they are, and often you find great reads that way.

    Mind you, I can't talk about pimping vs not: I put my blog link in my Fetlife comments, and that's *totally* just self-advertising! Ha!

    Ferns

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  2. I'll have to figure out how you do that cool thing where you make words link to sites. Peroxide is good at doing that. Is it magic? It must be magic. I just have to learn magic then.

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  3. 1. On blogs, you just fill in the fields when you comment and add your web address. Nobody will mind, I promise.

    2. For manually adding links to your website, use this fabulously useful little tool. <= do not use this on blog comments, see 1. above.

    Ferns

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  4. PS I meant... yes, Greg, yes, it's magic...

    Ferns

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  5. Am I magic?

    Female Domination for Hopeful Romantics

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